Up until a few days ago, the thought of my oldest daughter getting her drivers permit was an exciting thing. Teenage driver? Pshaw! She’s a smart, responsible girl. Learning to drive will be easy and the pay-off will be SO worth it.
There have been a lot of things during my 15 1/2 years as a mom that have terrified me before they happened….but have turned out to be nothing to worry about at all. I remember being scared to death of middle school, but ever since my kids started advancing to middle school, I’ve loved it. Middle school has been the place where each of my kids has blossomed and thrived. They’ve found their “place,” their niche, along with wonderful friends who share so much more than just a neighborhood in common. Middle school has been fabulous, and definitely nothing to be worried about.
Contrast that with my lack of fear about having a teen driver. My laid back perspective changed the first time I took her out on the road, around other cars.
The good, bad, and ugly about having a teenage driver:
Pro: In 9 months I could have an extra driver to run errands for me or to shuttle around her brothers and sisters.
Con: I’m going to have to share my car.
Pro: I can stay in the car and have HER pump gas for me.
Con: Beginning driver = high insurance rates!
Pro: She will have increased independence, including the ability to drive to her internship and job next year.
Con: Thinking of having a daughter old enough to drive, hold a job, and be a senior in high school next year freaks me out! I’m old. THere’s no escaping it now!
Pro: Driving privileges are a great motivator. I can get her to do anything to “earn” time driving.
Con: Those 60 hours of logged driving practice? I’ve got to be in the passenger seat for every single one of those. The passenger side does not have a break pedal. Taking a minivan out on public streets with your KID behind the wheel? It’s pretty terrifying.
Pro: She’s getting better, and pretty soon she’ll be a natural.
Con: I didn’t think about the commitment this was going to be on my part – of time, teaching moments, and emotionally draining situations.
Pro: We’re going to be spending a lot of time together for the next 9 months.
I think I’m just going to concentrate on that for now…
What parenting moment (future or past) terrifies you the most?
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